Is it okay for a young man to marry an older women according to the bible?

Is it okay for a young man to marry an older women according to the Bible?

Yes. It is absolutely okay for a young man to marry an older women according to the bible. Many Christians and church do not know that this kind of marriages are supported in bible. They preach and teach this kind of marriages as a sin or unfair in the eyes of God and hesitate to approve such kind of marriages.

Base in the bible 1:

In Genesis 38:8, we can see that Judah asking his second son to marry Tamar, the wife of his first son. “Sleep with your brother’s wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother.”

What made you think that his second son is younger than Tamar?

I believe he is younger than Tamar because, later we can see his second son also died and he said to Tamar to wait until his third son grows up until becomes able to get married. Gen.38:11 "Then Judah said to Tamar, his daughter-in-law, "Go back to your parents' home and remain a widow until my son Shelah is old enough to marry you."

What do you think is able to get married?(Guess)

It makes it very clear that his third son was much younger than Tamar. And if Judah made such an offer, I believe it was absolutely okay to marry a women who is older and there were many who were married like that also.

Base in the bible 2:

Deuteronomy 25:5 If brothers are living together and one of them dies without a son, his widow must not marry outside the family. Her husband’s brother shall take her and marry her and fulfill the duty of a brother-in-law to her. 6 The first son she bears shall carry on the name of the dead brother so that his name will not be blotted out from Israel. 7 However, if a man does not want to marry his brother’s wife, she shall go to the elders at the town gate and say, “My husband’s brother refuses to carry on his brother’s name in Israel. He will not fulfill the duty of a brother-in-law to me.” 8 Then the elders of his town shall summon him and talk to him. If he persists in saying, “I do not want to marry her,” 9 his brother’s widow shall go up to him in the presence of the elders, take off one of his sandals, spit in his face and say, “This is what is done to the man who will not build up his brother’s family line.” 10 That man’s line shall be known in Israel as The Family of the Unsandaled.

Now, my question is, what made you think/guess that all brother in laws are elder than their sister in laws?

If the dead person is the eldest, his young brother who might be younger than his dead brother's wife is commanded to marry her and to fulfill the duty of a brother-in-law.

For all those false teachers, the following commandment given by God through Moses will be more than hard to bear because since from the time of this commandment there will be ten thousands of young men who go got married to a older women based on this commandment. And I believe if to marry a older women was not biblical, it would have been clearly specified along with that commandment.

Base in the bible 3:

Matthew 22: 24 “Teacher,” they said, “Moses told us that if a man dies without having children, his brother must marry the widow and raise up offspring for him. 25 Now there were seven brothers among us. The first one married and died, and since he had no children, he left his wife to his brother. 26 The same thing happened to the second and third brother, right on down to the seventh.

My question is, How do you compare the age of this women to the age of youngest brothers? Based on various things, I assume that women is surely elder than not less than 3 or 4 of that younger brothers.

So based on these 3 strong evidences from bible, I would recommend not to prohibit marriages of older women to younger man saying that it is not supported on the basis of the bible.

What are God's plan and will about my life?

What are God's plan and will about my life? What if I didn't or failed to go through that?

It is a very good thing to seek, know and follow God's plan/will about our life. To know these, it is very necessary to understand the strategy of God regarding how God set plans about our life. As human beings, we think and believe that God has predestined all the things that is going to happen in our life and we just go through it in His appointed time. We even believe that our life is controlled based on that predestined plans of God. But the fact is not like that.

There is a very important thing called 'Free Will' that coordinates and manages the plans/will of God in our life. God has predestined our beginning to end and it is entirely based on our free will as well as the free will of those who control our life such as parents, partner, children and friends.

To make it more clear, I would like to compare it with a big flowchart. Our life is like a flowchart in which there is a start and there is an end. Our life flow through the flowchart based on all the decisions we make according to our free will. God knows the whole flowchart of our life, no matter which ever decisions we make in life. An easy example to understand it can be the decisions we made regarding our education or career. After your primary education at school, we have to make a decision to choose further education. We have many options like medicine, engineering, artist, accounting, programming and so on. God knows how our entire life is going to be, no matter whatever we opt. There is no need for God to re-plan our life based on the decisions we make because He already is well aware of our destination irrespective of our decisions.

So before we seek the will of God, we have to understand that it is not just one option that is ultimately the best option for us to take a decision. In the above example, suppose, there is nothing like a person should take the path of medicine for his life to be successful in life. Maybe even if he choose accounting also, it is going to be good for him, while engineering or programmer maybe not a good option for him. So it is okay for us to aim for something that is going to be a good option for us. Another good example is marriage. I would say that God have a complete flowchart about your life with more than the number of partners all over the world. Many people think like God has made one partner for them and they have to get them no matter what for their life to be successful. It is just an imagination like daydream. The fact is that there are thousands of partners that will be good for you according to the plan/will of God and all you have to do is to try to get one good partner among that. Else it will be not possible to explain remarriages, being single, late marriages, divorces and so on.

What If I Failed To Go Through That?

It is not possible for us to go through God's plan and will about our life. Whatever plans or decisions we made, God have the complete plans about it to our very end. But it is necessary to make decisions from options which will be very good for our future. Many times God won't give us clear directions about what decisions to make in life and sometimes He prevent us from taking some decisions because He knows that our future is going to be miserable if we opt that. In many other cases, God just remain very silent and want to see what decisions we make in life. Because we do not know clearly what decisions God want us to take, it is always important to pray and think well before making decisions.

Another thing to understand is that our life will not be successful based on one single decision we make. For example, if a person realized from God that it would be the best option for him to opt for engineering and he opted engineering. But his flowchart will have factors that control his life such as weather he studied well, yes/no, weather he given himself for drugs/addictions, yes/no and so many such things and only if he take the right decisions in all of that, then only he can be successful.

From Bible:

There are many examples in the bible to prove that we are free to make our own decisions and God's plan about our life depends and varies upon every single decision or action of us. The plan about Adam and Even changed when they sin. Abraham when he left his home town. The plans about Israel. About making Saul as king and removing him as king. About promising almost all the kings that God will bless them if they walk in the ways of God and not if they don't walk in God's ways. About Samson, Jonah, David, Daniel and so many other examples are there all over the bible.

Specific incidents: Abram fell into a deep sleep causing Israelites to live in Egypt as slaves for four hundred years. (Gen.15) Jehoash was limited 3 times to take victory over Aram just because he struck in the ground with arrows only 3 times. Deuteronomy 28 is an amazing chapter that gives a detailed plan of God of Israelites if they obey and disobey. His plans was clear and predestined already even if they obey or disobey and He has given the complete free will for them to obey or disobey.

So I pray for you to be able to take the decisions in life in which your future will be safe and happy in the hands of God.