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My husband wants a mutual divorce but I don't?
my husband and me have been separated for 2 months now. he wants a mutual divorce but I don't. I want to make things right but he is adamant that he wants a divorce. if I get a divorce, I want alimony and a house to live in as he has 5 houses. what is the best thing for me to do? my parents do not support me and I don't have a job.
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Dear sister, these days I am hearing lots of divorce cases. I am so sad to hear that for many are shortly married, many are divorcing for no reasons and a lot don't even know the meaning or marriage. They are considering everything just as fun and in many times helpless children suffer a lot between.
I feel your case is similar like one of those. I will never say you to divorce and I will try my best to make you reunite and live together. Better you try your best to reunite with your husband.
To each and everyone, I've something very important to say about a good married life. The main truth is 'No Person In This World Will Never Get An Exact Ideal Match As He/She Think Or Dream.' This means, each and every couples in this world have their own problems. No one are cent percent happy in their personal married life. The couples which we see outside laughing and playing, are not the same, when it comes to their personal room.
The main problem in most people's married life is they are thinking or assuming that they are only couples who got problems and trouble. And they feel like all other couples except them are enjoying their life with full of happiness and joy. Then they blame each other for the cause and finally end up in a divorce.
Sometimes people think of remarriage thinking that, they can get out of their problems if they get another spouse. This is foolishness and I can assure no persons are never gonna find success in such a married life. Because those who are not able to keep their first spouse can never keep a second spouse. It is just like trying to fly for the second time without wings. I mean impossible. This situation have to change. I will give you three points which I consider the most important to keep a married life successful.
1.No One Is Perfect.
Everyone in this world clearly knows that, they are not perfect. But the problem is to accept that 'they are not perfect'. And they are blaming each other. This situation has to change, not only to gain success in a good married life, but also to gain success in different areas of our life.
I know very well that it is not so easy to accept our fault. Each and every good thing has its own difficulty to bring it into practice. Just for an example, we know it is very easy to create a bad opinion about us in the society, but we all need to try hard and best to make a good opinion about us in our society. Similarly there are difficulties to accept our faults and to say a 'sorry'. Once we start to accept our fault, it should be more easier in further cases. But for that we have to start doing it from our family, because we can say a sorry and apologize ourselves more easily in our family than in our society.
2.All Are Born and Brought up in Different Situations.
This is really a great thing which every couples have to understand to lead a good married life. Born and brought up in different conditions influence the persons behavior for a great extent.You should always realize a fact that, both of you are not born in a same family or place or under same conditions. There may be difference in the members in a family, education, economical background, relatives, friends, schools, neighbors and a lot more things which will influence their nature. It won't be same for any one.
As the past situations in our life is the reason for our character and behavior, we can not force anyone to be like this or that. All we have to do is to take a self decision to understand ourselves and try their best to practice good things which we commonly called good. Then share yourselves the best with your spouse in all terms like love, faithfulness, help, kindness, prayers to make an influence and to change his/her character. Beyond all be a good support in need, each other and help each other.
3.Different Dreams and Wishes.
This is bit more serious than the second point, because each and everyone's dreams and wishes may be entirely different, even if they are born and brought up in so different conditions. The only way to take success over this problem is by give up. Understand that not only you, but your spouse and everyone have their own dreams and wishes about their marriage, husband, children, dress, job, education and so on. Most of all cases, we all are just careful about our wishes and dreams. And many times people do behave in such a way thinking they are the only one with dreams and wishes. They always try to bring their wishes come into true. These type of character and thoughts should have to be removed to gain success in married life.
Those Who Those Who Adjust Problems By Forgiving and Forgetting Each other will Gain Success in their Married Life. Now what I have to tell you is understand these things clearly as you can and accept the errors from your part with your whole heart. Take a decision to reconcile especially in the matter which you are separated for. Also say sorry for each and everything you have done wrong, even if it is small. Don't feel any hesitation to do that because he is your spouse.
And I will also instruct you to do it as fast as you can. Otherwise both of you will feel comfort in the separated position and it will make it more difficult to reunite again. So try to reconcile as fast as possible. Also seek the help of God who created marriage. Wishes you all sort of success in your married life. May God be with you.
My husband wants a mutual divorce but I don't?
my husband and me have been separated for 2 months now. he wants a mutual divorce but I don't. I want to make things right but he is adamant that he wants a divorce. if I get a divorce, I want alimony and a house to live in as he has 5 houses. what is the best thing for me to do? my parents do not support me and I don't have a job.
Answers:
Dear sister, these days I am hearing lots of divorce cases. I am so sad to hear that for many are shortly married, many are divorcing for no reasons and a lot don't even know the meaning or marriage. They are considering everything just as fun and in many times helpless children suffer a lot between.
I feel your case is similar like one of those. I will never say you to divorce and I will try my best to make you reunite and live together. Better you try your best to reunite with your husband.
To each and everyone, I've something very important to say about a good married life. The main truth is 'No Person In This World Will Never Get An Exact Ideal Match As He/She Think Or Dream.' This means, each and every couples in this world have their own problems. No one are cent percent happy in their personal married life. The couples which we see outside laughing and playing, are not the same, when it comes to their personal room.
The main problem in most people's married life is they are thinking or assuming that they are only couples who got problems and trouble. And they feel like all other couples except them are enjoying their life with full of happiness and joy. Then they blame each other for the cause and finally end up in a divorce.
Sometimes people think of remarriage thinking that, they can get out of their problems if they get another spouse. This is foolishness and I can assure no persons are never gonna find success in such a married life. Because those who are not able to keep their first spouse can never keep a second spouse. It is just like trying to fly for the second time without wings. I mean impossible. This situation have to change. I will give you three points which I consider the most important to keep a married life successful.
1.No One Is Perfect.
Everyone in this world clearly knows that, they are not perfect. But the problem is to accept that 'they are not perfect'. And they are blaming each other. This situation has to change, not only to gain success in a good married life, but also to gain success in different areas of our life.
I know very well that it is not so easy to accept our fault. Each and every good thing has its own difficulty to bring it into practice. Just for an example, we know it is very easy to create a bad opinion about us in the society, but we all need to try hard and best to make a good opinion about us in our society. Similarly there are difficulties to accept our faults and to say a 'sorry'. Once we start to accept our fault, it should be more easier in further cases. But for that we have to start doing it from our family, because we can say a sorry and apologize ourselves more easily in our family than in our society.
2.All Are Born and Brought up in Different Situations.
This is really a great thing which every couples have to understand to lead a good married life. Born and brought up in different conditions influence the persons behavior for a great extent.You should always realize a fact that, both of you are not born in a same family or place or under same conditions. There may be difference in the members in a family, education, economical background, relatives, friends, schools, neighbors and a lot more things which will influence their nature. It won't be same for any one.
As the past situations in our life is the reason for our character and behavior, we can not force anyone to be like this or that. All we have to do is to take a self decision to understand ourselves and try their best to practice good things which we commonly called good. Then share yourselves the best with your spouse in all terms like love, faithfulness, help, kindness, prayers to make an influence and to change his/her character. Beyond all be a good support in need, each other and help each other.
3.Different Dreams and Wishes.
This is bit more serious than the second point, because each and everyone's dreams and wishes may be entirely different, even if they are born and brought up in so different conditions. The only way to take success over this problem is by give up. Understand that not only you, but your spouse and everyone have their own dreams and wishes about their marriage, husband, children, dress, job, education and so on. Most of all cases, we all are just careful about our wishes and dreams. And many times people do behave in such a way thinking they are the only one with dreams and wishes. They always try to bring their wishes come into true. These type of character and thoughts should have to be removed to gain success in married life.
Those Who Those Who Adjust Problems By Forgiving and Forgetting Each other will Gain Success in their Married Life. Now what I have to tell you is understand these things clearly as you can and accept the errors from your part with your whole heart. Take a decision to reconcile especially in the matter which you are separated for. Also say sorry for each and everything you have done wrong, even if it is small. Don't feel any hesitation to do that because he is your spouse.
And I will also instruct you to do it as fast as you can. Otherwise both of you will feel comfort in the separated position and it will make it more difficult to reunite again. So try to reconcile as fast as possible. Also seek the help of God who created marriage. Wishes you all sort of success in your married life. May God be with you.
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